How to Create a Sacred Space in Your Home
Pat Cheeks considers the pen around her hen house, where a handful of Wyandotte chickens roam and hunt for bugs and grain, part of her sacred space. Beyond the carefully mowed lawn and large garden are woods, a small footpath, and a hammock slung between two towering walnut trees. That’s a part of her sacred space too. While most homeowners are familiar with “man caves, man spaces” or “she sheds” or “she spaces” for women, a sacred space, by whatever name, is a place where we can retreat, relax, dream and be with ourselves. What that space is and how it looks, is up to you to define.
Cheeks is a wife, mother to two grown children, a board certified psychiatric nurse, a patient advocate, and a life navigator. Her life is about helping people transition from one life phase to another. For some, the transition is from single to married, married to divorced, or from couple to widow or widower.
“Any important transition in our lives, whether it’s going off to college, questioning your sexuality or faith, bringing life into the world, or leaving the world is a transition,” she said. “Many people go to a local park, or hike, or get out into the world to process their transitions, whether they’re happy ones, or sad ones – like grief or loss. A sacred space for some can be something as simple as a coffee shop where we meet a friend or sit on a park bench at the local dog park. But having a place in your home that’s yours, even if it’s just a corner of the kitchen or your bedroom, or a place in your garden can be a more accessible retreat. It doesn’t have to be big, or elaborate. Just a space where you feel safe enough to think, meditate, breath and relax will help.”
Christie Inge is a blogger, energy healer, and coach who also encourages people to create sacred spaces in their home, not just to relax and rejuvenate, but to grow.
“I think one of the most important aspects of growing, both emotionally and spiritually, is having a safe space to explore, process, and dream,” she said. It took her awhile, but as she evolved so did her concept of sacred space.
“Sacred space is any non-judgmental place that fosters well-being and growth. It opens you up, instead of shutting you down, and allows you to explore your feelings, needs, values, and desires without any sort of attachment to what happens as a result of that exploration. For example, if you are feeling angry, a sacred space would not be a space where you are ‘trying not to be angry anymore.’ It would be a space where you can look at that anger, without judgment, and allow the wisdom of the anger to unfold.”
“The space does not have to be anywhere specific or of a certain size. In fact, I’d call it an attitude more than a place. If you are allowing yourself to explore your inner landscape with curiosity, instead of judgment, you are in sacred space,”
Five Ways to Create a Sacred Space in Your Home
Set Some Boundaries
“If you fear being interrupted or that your privacy will be violated, you will not feel free to really explore your inner landscape,” Inge said. Setting boundaries around who can go into your space, or share it, is important. It’s okay to say no, and keep your space exclusively yours, or not. It’s up to you.
Make it Simple
“It’s a sacred space, so make it yours, but you don’t have to create an elaborate decorating scheme,” Cheeks said. “Use personal items you already have, scarves, hangings, paintings, or a few favorite throw pillows, to make it comfortable. Be aware of what colors you are most attracted to. Ask yourself if the colors and arrangement of the space add to your feelings of calm? You don’t have to do much of anything to an outdoor space. A garden, a corner of your yard where you can place a bench, or just a path around your property you can walk, all make wonderful spaces.”
Free From Noise
“This doesn’t necessarily mean sound since music can be quite powerful. In this context, noise is the opinions, needs, and values of other people and the constant barrage of cultural input telling us that we are not, and will never be, good enough as we are,” Inge said.
Give Yourself Permission to Feel
“I used to think that safety was not feeling anything. But, actually, emotional safety is actually about knowing that you can handle whatever emotion arises. If we are judging our emotions and feelings as bad or wrong, it will be impossible, 100% of the time, to access the wisdom that those emotions hold. So, sacred space requires full permission to let the feelings be what they are,” Inge said.
Incorporate Grounding Into The Space
“Earthing, or “grounding” is an important part of any sacred space,” Cheeks said. “Inside space is good, but consider creating an outside place where you can kick off your shoes and stand in bare soil. Digging your toes into warm, fresh soil helps to connect and ground yourself. You can also find a space where you can walk barefoot on the grass. If that seems odd to you, then start a garden. Do something to get your hands and feet in the soil.”
“Earthing” or “grounding” isn’t just a fad. According to some studies:
“Scientific research has revealed a surprisingly positive and overlooked environmental factor on health: direct physical contact with the vast supply of electrons on the surface of the Earth. Modern lifestyle separates humans from such contact. The research suggests that this disconnect may be a major contributor to physiological dysfunction and unwellness. Re-connection with the Earth’s electrons has been found to promote intriguing physiological changes and subjective reports of well-being.
Earthing (or grounding) refers to the discovery of benefits—including better sleep and reduced pain—from walking barefoot outside or sitting, working, or sleeping indoors connected to conductive systems that transfer the Earth’s electrons from the ground into the body.”
Your home is more than just where you sleep, eat and store your stuff. “Having a sacred space in your home can be very healing,” Cheeks said. “There’s a reason why animals have dens – they can retreat there to heal, to nest, to get away from the stress of the world. Having a place you can call your own, and having various spaces where other family members can do the same, makes a huge difference in your mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical well-being.”